She said yes! Buying the right ring and picking the perfect spot to get down on one knee was where your responsibility stopped, surely? Now it’s time to relax until the big day, right? Wrong. Unless you really want to spend the months before your wedding firmly in the doghouse.
I’ve photographed hundreds of weddings across Manchester, the North West and the UK (as well as a few abroad) and know how stressful it can be for couples. I have picked up a few hints and tips along the way, though, which will help you survive wedding planning!
I’ve put together ten key pieces of advice for grooms on their wedding day.
Advice For Grooms – Before the wedding day
Getting married is consistently featured as one of the most stressful things you will do in your life. It’s no wonder, then, that wedding planning can cause friction for happy couples. But there are a few things you can do to make sure the months leading up to the big day run smoothly.
Here’s some advice for grooms on their wedding day and how to prepare in the build up to the event.
- Don’t just say ‘yes’
While agreeing with your future wife is important, when you’re wedding planning sometimes ‘no’ is the answer. There is nothing more infuriating for a bride-to-be than her fiancé just blindly saying yes to everything she suggests. Having an opinion on even just a few key things (the venue, the food or the photos) will let her know that she’s got your support. Planning a wedding can be incredibly stressful and knowing you’re on board will be a weight off her mind. And you want to know something about your wedding before you get there, right?
- Be her shoulder to cry on
Have I mentioned that planning a wedding can be stressful? Your wife-to-be will probably have a hundred things running through her mind most of the time and it might be hard to keep up. It could be her control freak mum or a flaky bridesmaid causing her stress, there will always be something. Let her vent, give her a hug or just agree with her. Just make sure you don’t join in any family or friend bashing – now isn’t the time to share that you can’t stand Aunty Beryl either!
- Select your best man with care
Know your mate who would lose his head if it wasn’t screwed on? Or the one who always drunkenly flirts with your fiancée’s little sister? Yup, you guessed it, they’re probably not the guys to put in charge on your big day. I’m not suggesting that you pick your old chemistry teacher because he’s the most responsible guy you know, but it’s important to have reliable people around you. Your wedding day is a stressful one and you will undoubtedly be nervous. Your best man needs to be able to keep you calm and get you to the church on time. Not need dragging out of a late night bar at 2am on your wedding day.
- Fail to prepare, prepare to fail
While your beautiful wife-to-be may have everything from the seating plan to the transport in hand, don’t forget you have your part to play too. When will you and your groomsmen pick up the suits? Have you got enough time to get a replacement or alterations should something go wrong? How much time do you need to get to the venue (before your other half!)? Your best man will help you, but it’s important to be prepared so the day runs smoothly. Writing a checklist can really help here.
- Practice your speech
Your new father-in-law has reduced half the room to tears with his speech and now all eyes are on you. You’re probably nervous about what the best man has up his sleeve (though hopefully you picked someone who won’t stitch you up too badly) but it’s your turn. This is your chance to let everyone know just how wonderful your new wife is – so make sure you’ve had some practice beforehand. You might be able to wing it in front of the guests, but she will know. Take along some notes if you’re likely to be really nervous. Whatever you do, don’t watch Tom Fletcher’s wedding speech before the big day!
Advice For Grooms On Their Wedding Day – On the day
Finally the big day has arrived. You’ve made it, but you’re stomach is churning with nerves. Here are some top tips for grooms on their wedding day.
The following advice will make your day one to really remember!
- Don’t forget to eat!
If you’re getting married in the afternoon, chances are this is the last opportunity you’ll have to eat for some time. Make sure to have a good breakfast, even if you don’t feel like it your future self will thank you.
- Have a settler
You will be nervous, so it’s a good idea to take some time out before the wedding to prepare yourself. Whether it’s a beer at the local pub or a quick stroll to gather your thoughts, you’ll need a few minutes just to get your head together. A good best man is worth his weight in gold here.
Having a drink is always a piece of advice given to grooms on their wedding day, but this is standard practice anyway!
- Don’t worry about the small stuff
Things can and do go wrong at weddings, but don’t let them spoil your day. It’s about you marrying the person you love, so don’t let the fact that the table flowers are a centimetre too short ruin your day (or your wife’s!).
- Take time out with your new wife
Your wedding day will pass in a blur of emotion, wine and good friends so it is easy to forget to spend time together. A good wedding photographer will give you some time out when getting your pictures, but getting some time alone during the day will help you take it all in.
Have a read of our advice about picking a wedding photographer if you’ve not got one yet.
- Enjoy it!
This probably sounds really obvious, but so many people spend the day stressing about everything and forget to have fun. This is your big day – enjoy it! It’s last on the list, but probably the most important piece of advice that should be given to grooms on their wedding day.
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